Sometimes you sabotage your relationships and lose friends without knowing what you did wrong.
Friends are one of the things that makes life more interesting and worth living and we should always take our time to appreciate them by doing our absolute best for them.
Sometimes you sabotage your relationships and lose friends without knowing what you did wrong.
You can be the bestfriend you can, if you do a cross-examination and know what is keeping your friend away from you:
Allison Bryant of All Women Stalk lists these 7 things which may be pushing your friends away from you:
Not returning text or calls: Do you have this habit? We all forget sometimes and I think any friend would understand that. The issue comes in when you rarely ever return a text or call. There may even be times when your friend is really upset and reaches out to you through a text or a call. Do your best to return them, especially the important ones.
Not being a good listener: Being a good listener isn’t always easy! Sometimes you’re excited and have #things you want to share too. It’s hard to listen when you’re bursting at the seams with your own news. But this is a time you can make the choice to be a good friend. Be a good listener and share your news when it’s an appropriate #time in the conversation.
Dating their Exes: My teenage daughter tells me that this is basic #girl code. You just don’t date your friend’s #ex. Of course, there can be exceptions, such as talking to your friend about it and knowing they’re okay with it. But if your friend is still really upset over the breakup and going through a lot of emotions, that’s not the #time. Shift your focus to another handsome fella.
Taking your moods out on your friends: It’s absolutely okay to vent to your friends. That’s part of friendship - being there for each other on difficult days! What’s not okay is taking your moods out on your friends. Just because you’re feeling bad doesn’t mean they deserve to be treated badly. If you know that you’re taking your mood out on others then make the kindest choice and take some alone #time until you get out of your funk.
Dominating all the plans you have together: Asking your #girlfriend to go with you to shop for a bathing suit or hit the new sushi bar that just opened is fine. But steamrolling over anything she wants to do isn’t. Friendship is a two-way street, which is what makes it so special. Share what you’d love to do but be open to her preferences, too. This also has the benefit of giving you a #chance to experience new things.
Constantly asking them for favours: Asking for favors is fine! After all, what’re friends for? But if you’re constantly asking for favors, it can leave your friends feeling used. Make sure you’re giving as much as you’re taking. One way to do this is do special things for your friends that let them know how much you treasure them.
You talk about them to other friends: No one likes to be talked about. And it’s totally different if you’re talking about one #friend to another because you’re both concerned about something they’re facing. That’s just the true heart of caring. But talking about them in a gossipy or backbiting way isn’t kind. Try to follow the motto of treating others how you want to be treated in friendships.
Friends are one of the things that makes life more interesting and worth living and we should always take our time to appreciate them by doing our absolute best for them.
Sometimes you sabotage your relationships and lose friends without knowing what you did wrong.
You can be the bestfriend you can, if you do a cross-examination and know what is keeping your friend away from you:
Allison Bryant of All Women Stalk lists these 7 things which may be pushing your friends away from you:
Not returning text or calls: Do you have this habit? We all forget sometimes and I think any friend would understand that. The issue comes in when you rarely ever return a text or call. There may even be times when your friend is really upset and reaches out to you through a text or a call. Do your best to return them, especially the important ones.
Not being a good listener: Being a good listener isn’t always easy! Sometimes you’re excited and have #things you want to share too. It’s hard to listen when you’re bursting at the seams with your own news. But this is a time you can make the choice to be a good friend. Be a good listener and share your news when it’s an appropriate #time in the conversation.
Dating their Exes: My teenage daughter tells me that this is basic #girl code. You just don’t date your friend’s #ex. Of course, there can be exceptions, such as talking to your friend about it and knowing they’re okay with it. But if your friend is still really upset over the breakup and going through a lot of emotions, that’s not the #time. Shift your focus to another handsome fella.
Taking your moods out on your friends: It’s absolutely okay to vent to your friends. That’s part of friendship - being there for each other on difficult days! What’s not okay is taking your moods out on your friends. Just because you’re feeling bad doesn’t mean they deserve to be treated badly. If you know that you’re taking your mood out on others then make the kindest choice and take some alone #time until you get out of your funk.
Dominating all the plans you have together: Asking your #girlfriend to go with you to shop for a bathing suit or hit the new sushi bar that just opened is fine. But steamrolling over anything she wants to do isn’t. Friendship is a two-way street, which is what makes it so special. Share what you’d love to do but be open to her preferences, too. This also has the benefit of giving you a #chance to experience new things.
Constantly asking them for favours: Asking for favors is fine! After all, what’re friends for? But if you’re constantly asking for favors, it can leave your friends feeling used. Make sure you’re giving as much as you’re taking. One way to do this is do special things for your friends that let them know how much you treasure them.
You talk about them to other friends: No one likes to be talked about. And it’s totally different if you’re talking about one #friend to another because you’re both concerned about something they’re facing. That’s just the true heart of caring. But talking about them in a gossipy or backbiting way isn’t kind. Try to follow the motto of treating others how you want to be treated in friendships.
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