Pastor Anita Oyakhilome writes about abusive relationships and marriages

In a post on her blog titled 'There is always
something to be thankful for', pastor Anita
Oyakhilome, who filed for divorce from the founder
of Christ Embassy, Chris Oyakhilome, on April 9, 2014
on the grounds of "unreasonable behaviour" talks
about abusive relationships and marriages.
She began with a quote from American actor,
Michael J. Fox "One's dignity may be assaulted,
vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be
taken away unless it is surrendered."

She wrote:

After an abusive relationship or marriage, there
is no doubt you will have feelings of deep sorrow
for a long time, which could go on for possibly
months or even years. These feelings will come
and go periodically as you reflect and you
remember things from the past that would make
you feel distressed.

You may be inundated with disappointments,
which may lead you to voice your regrets,
especially coming across certain people or a
person. Several Instances could cause flashbacks
and bring back thoughts of regret such as;
signing a contract, making a decision, joining an
organization, trusting people, buying a property.

Also your mind would question why you hung
unto a dead marriage or stayed in an abusive
relationship. Don't stay in that condition for too
long.

Regrets will only aggravate your feelings. Forget
about the things you cannot change and focus on
being thankful. Don't put your life on hold, rather
plan what you would like to accomplish in one
week, one month, three months and in a year's
time.

See the silver lining in the cloud. You may
struggle to find or observe that flicker of light
emerging out of the darkness but give yourself
time to recover from that shocking hopeless
experience, then thank God for making you
strong enough to walk away from the abuse.

The situation might be tough, with burdensome
chains, but you will get better. You can rise up to
the challenge and improve yourself. Something
good will come out of your situation. You will
become a stronger and more productive person
when you learn from your experience and use
your knowledge to improve yourself for new
prospects ahead. "I want my life to bring comfort
to others and I am on that journey now
thankfully." Every ending is really a new
beginning for beautiful opportunities ahead.

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